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Eighteen Long Years

DearJames,

After eighteen long years of my first and only husband divorcing me, then taking my kids away from me, then dying at 46-years of age, leaving me stranded in the street, alone and destitute, with nothing, I just want to ask WHY have I not been able to find another man to love and marry me?

Now, I’ve picked myself up of course since then, but why hasn’t the Universe brought me another great husband like it did when I asked for my first husband?

Anonymous

Dear Eighteen Long Years,

Some life lessons are easily learned, others take a lifetime and beyond.

No doubt about it, you’ve spent the better part of this lifetime going through the learning process. Learning what love really is. How to love yourself and others, and perhaps most of all, how to both give and receive love unconditionally.

Love. Love. Love.

Without understanding and mastering loving yourself, you cannot possibly receive such love, as you remain in a perpetual state and loop of lack, need, inadequacy, etc. A vicious cycle where the need to be loved and fulfilled by someone outside of you trumps self-love.

Self-love is all encompassing and fulfilling. It contains everything you need both internally and externally. It sets the benchmark and standard for every relationship whether it be family, friend, colleague, intimate, or foe. Far from selfish and self-centered, self-love is selfless. This form of love wants for nothing. It is whole and complete.

By your own admission, you’ve already experienced a form of love ensconced in shadow work. Why would you ask the Universe to bring you yet another heaping helping of what you’ve already feasted, endured, and recovered from? Unless you aren’t finished with the many lessons associated with such a form of love, it’s time to move forward officially and concretely.

Open yourself to a new and improved, unblemished form of love. A form where the only true love you need already resides within you. A relationship so rich it expresses itself openly, authentically, and freely, without reservation, resentment, retribution, resistance, or expectation. A relationship with you and your soul-source connection.

Discover this form of love and it will be mirrored back to you ten-fold. This is what the Universe wishes to bring you. This, and a love that mirrors the new you.

DearJames®