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Will I Find A Partner

DearJames,

I’m in my early to mid-forties and haven’t found a male partner to share my life. Will I find a partner?

Trenee

Dear Will I Find A Partner,

The ability to find love begins within.

By recognizing the factors that have thus far kept you from finding a male partner, you afford yourself the opportunity to transcend them. It’s not that there’s “something wrong with you,” but rather a belief system that needs repair and/or adjustment.

The desire alone, to be with another, is not sufficient to manifest the outcome you desire. You must first be willing to address the motivating factors you prefer to keep out of sight…hidden.

“Everywhere you go, there you are.” This beautiful quote by Jon Kabat-Zinn says it all. Another applicable idiom is “Protection not Rejection.”

Once you acknowledge and address these inner issues (fears – doubts – struggles), you will see why you have yet to truly be with another. Old thought patterns and belief systems need some updating, as do you. Update your look, clothing, and outlook on life. Unleash a whole new you.

From the inside out, with the purest of intentions, awaken the sleeping giant within you. Running on the treadmill has taken its toll on you and kept you in place. Autopilot is a known destination, and you are in need of new adventures. Fly solo. Shake things up. Change your habits, routine, thoughts, beliefs, and actions.

Be willing to do with and for yourself what you wish to experience and receive with a partner. Open your heart and allow it to lead you. Trust that what emerges is of such rare quality that when your life partner does appear he will be a mirror unto your soul. Whole. Complete. And ready.

Newness brings interest. Interest brings discovery. Discovery brings change. And CHANGE is exactly what you need and is in store for you. Embrace this change so you may find it in an oh so share my life romantic way with another. Open the door to your new possibilities.

DearJames®