Waiting To Marry

Your statement begs the question, what have you been waiting for?

Of course, the answer to that question is perfection, and the belief that by waiting, delaying, and/or avoiding, you may somehow escape the pitfalls and perceived stigma of any failed relationship. Relationships are rarely if ever “perfect.” They involve an exchange between two human beings, a constant dance of exploration and experience. Life, birth, and death are messy, and that’s okay.

Waiting all this time has merely served to isolate you emotionally. It has kept you from jumping into the deep end of the pool. From experiencing amazing opportunities of love and all that comes with being in relationship with another. There are no guarantees when it comes to love, relationships, marriage, and their outcome. A certain amount of risk is to be expected in affairs of the heart.

Alfred Lord Tennyson’s quote “tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all” is quite poignant and applicable here. Love is the foundation upon which all of life is based. Our trust and willingness to engage it fully, regardless the outcome, is paramount to a happier life experience and expectancy.

How do you love and trust another if you do not first love and trust yourself?

Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with waiting to find the right person for you. Just ensure you do so from a place of self-love and trust. From a place of faith, not fear. From a place of joy, and happiness where you genuinely enjoy your own company. For it is far easier to get into a relationship than it is to get out of one. Discernment is highly prized. Just be certain that your discernment is based on an open heart and mind rather than fear and an illusory pursuit of perfection.

Your chances of finding love, no matter your age, depends on your willingness to face your fears, open your heart, and take the leap of faith required to bring about the person, relationship, and/or marriage you desire. Where is he you ask? Literally right in front of you, you’ve just been too (fill in the blank) to see / recognize him.