Second Thoughts

Divorce is rarely an easy decision.  It comes with just as much thought, if not more, than the initial getting married part.  It tests your resolve and makes you think, and therein lies the hidden opportunity.

The opportunity to quiet yourself, to go within your self to discern what is truly the best direction for YOU.  All that second-guessing you’ve been doing is your ego-mind spewing out non-stop fear and regret, what ifs and countless maybes.

That amounts to a lot of wasted time and energy, leaving you swimming in the deep-end, of your own old story.  It’s toxic waste or the “cesspool” as I like to call it.

You would no more be willingly to swim in a pool of waste than simply bathe or lie in it, so stop doing it in this circumstance.  Know that everything in life happens for a reason, and even though we may not know every outcome before it occurs, it is indeed happening for a reason.

The point being, you are in a divorce because things between you and your spouse were not working.  You or him or both of you were not willing or able to remedy that which was ailing you, both as individuals and as a couple.

If the issues that led to the divorce are in fact irreconcilable, and I sense that they are, then proceed with confidence.  There is no failure in divorce, merely grand opportunities to become greater people / souls.

Don’t just simply “get divorced” and be on your merry way.  LEARN FROM IT.  Be willing to look within your self to discern what role you played.  Look at the role your husband played.  Each of you was a mirror for the other, and you played your parts brilliantly.

By coming to understand yourself better, you will come to appreciate and thank your ex-husband for the role he played in your growing wiser, stronger, and more evolved.

You will come to transcend that which he agreed to teach you.  And that is why you are divorcing in the first place, because your soul is now ready to learn and overcome those lessons and move beyond.

Be open, raw, and vulnerable with yourself.  Feel the wisdom, strength, and empowerment of your thoughts, emotions, and actions.  Watch as one epiphany after another cleanses and releases your soul.

Then know that the only second thought you will have in the future is why didn’t I do this sooner.