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Playing Games With Me

DearJames,

Is my ex boyfriend playing games with me?

Anonymous

Dear Playing Games With Me,

The answer is YES, and you would be wise to heed your own advice.

This situation is toxic, repetitive, and serving no one’s highest and best. Too many missed opportunities have muddied the waters, and it appears as though neither of you are capable nor willing to extricate yourselves from the murky situation. You need to stand firm, hold your ground, and free yourself once and for all.

While the heart sees what it wants to see, the soul is never blind to the illusion.

What may have begun as a fairytale romance, quickly soured along the way. There was much making up and atoning for to the point of ridiculousness. To what end does the madness continue? Each of you are who you are, and this was simply not a good fit, certainly not for the long run.

When you’re truly ready to move on, the first thing you will want to do is atone and make amends with yourself. Having given away your power, you need to reclaim it so when the right Mr. Right presents himself, you’ll be ready. And when Mr. Wrong looking like Mr. Right shows up before him, you’ll feel confident in your decision to pass him by without a shred of hesitancy or second guessing.

The finer things in life truly are free and you are no less worthy of receiving these gifts than your fellow human. Clear the slate. Get back in the game. Be in it to win it. And know full well this time around you have the home court advantage, having learned from your past choices and experiences.

DearJames®