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Catching the bouquet is fun, being ready before you ever commit to walking down the aisle with another, priceless.

Traditions and superstitions have played a role in shaping our collective psyche. When you participate in the “catching of the bouquet,” you do so for many conscious and unconscious reasons. Actually catching the bouquet creates a multitude of others.

There’s an element of competition, a yearning to be in love, in a relationship, the next bride. A desire to live happily ever after.

Weddings always have a way of reminding us of our personal journey and circumstance. They highlight where we are in our own love life and relationship or the lack thereof. They bring forth our deepest desires and unspoken truths. Our longings, fears, and regrets. Yes, weddings can bring out the very best and worst in us.

In every instance, weddings are a mirror by which we may see ourselves more clearly.

Romanticizing marriage is a very slippery slope. Marriage is something you choose every day, not something you simply celebrate once at the altar. Marriage can be as challenging as it is rewarding. The difference between the two experiences and their respective outcomes is commitment, communication, and preparedness.

Preparedness in the sense that you are brutally honest with yourself. You enjoy your own company and are whole, complete, and happy on your own. Your potential spouse adds to your wholeness; doesn’t complete it.

When you look for someone to complete what is absent within you, you are setting both of you up for a series of lessons, dare one say disappointments, as no one can do for another what their soul intended to do for itself. Realized through individual and collective relationship experiences, each soul is a mirror, demonstrating to the other what their soul said it would do.

Looking out instead of in, we blame the other for what we are to master and transcend ourselves. Soul growth and evolution is at the foundation of our purpose and empowerment. Before you give further thought to the question of “can you please tell me when I will get married,” you would benefit yourself immensely by asking yourself Am I really ready.

The reality of marriage is far different than the fantasy. To love yourself first. To love yourself enough. To love yourself more, as opposed to finding love through another cannot be overstated. It is the foundation upon which you will perceive, experience, and judge your marriage. It sets the tone energetically for who you will marry and your respective interactions and experience.

Ultimately, you’ll know whether you want catching the bouquet and everything that comes with it to mean what the tradition says it does or if you’ve been given a greater opportunity. What’s truly most important is the question of “when” will you marry.