Will My Son Change

Tough times and circumstances lie ahead, there’s simply no beating around the bush here.

Your son is struggling and remains in a volatile state. Intermediate remission and states of calm are also forecast. It’s not that he is a bad person, but rather he feels frustrated, lost, and alone. No matter how many well-intentioned acts or discussions you or anyone else has with him, he is going to have to figure this one out on his own.

In a manner of speaking, this is what he has been telegraphing to everyone; “I don’t need your help.”

Of course, this is an illusionists and arsonists perspective. Youthful folly mixed with anger, arrogance, and impatience all collide under the weight of speedy steeds. He doesn’t know what he wants, yet unequivocally tells himself he knows what he doesn’t want. He knows he wants to get somewhere, yet everyone, everybody, and everything is standing in his way and is to blame for his misery, misdeeds, and lack of achievements.

Maturity goes a long way in smoothing over ruffled edges, however, it’s surviving the time it takes to get there that can give you sleepless nights and anxiety, and a not-so-mild case of heartburn and heartache.

Know that his choices are not your choices. That loving him doesn’t mean you condone his choices. Do your utmost best to safeguard yourself and others while he finds his way.

We all play a divine role in mirroring back to others that which their soul asked us to. Accept the offerings your son is reflecting to you for the soul gifts they are, even and especially when they are painful to bear witness to and accept. In that you will see not only your own divinity, but also that of your child’s.

Change will occur as it is a true constant in life.

As the carnival huckster shouts to the crowd when spinning the wheel, “round and round and round it goes, where it stops nobody knows.” You may not know where all of this will all end up, however, you do know you are the parent of a son who needs time, love, and acceptance, even if you must do so from a distance. Love him where he is.