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Struggling In The USA

DearJames,

My husband and I have moved from Australia to be near my children, which I have been separated from for 15-years because they lived with their father, and I couldn’t afford to come here financially or legally. I have remarried the love of my life, and we took all our Super/ 401k money out to move here 16-months ago. However, since we’ve been here it’s been a struggle for me health wise as well as financially. We’ve used up all our money to live and my husband lost the job he’d found. Do we go back to Australia or stay and struggle. I want to be here for my kids. Please help.

Anonymous

Dear Stuggling In The USA,

Where there’s a will there’s a way.

To truly make it in a new land you must be vulnerable.

Learn to crawl before you walk or run.

Leave the past behind you and fully embrace the present.

Practice and embrace childlike innocence.

Greet each moment with excitement, anticipation, and determination, not longing, frustration, fear, and regret.

Simply put, Surrender.

Until you do that, you’ll remain constricted and lost, defeated, and isolated.

You came here for all the right reasons per se but with the totally wrong mindset.

Until you release the pain of the past, it’s emotional lack and limitation, its lost years, and many tears, you’ll never really enjoy and experience the land of opportunity.

America is founded on the belief that your better days are ahead of you not behind you.

Here you can do, say or be anything.  You can turn tragedy into triumph, loss into gain.

It’s a way of being, living, thinking…an innate belief system.

You need only be willing, determined, creative, and congenial.

America loves a success story as much as you do.  Bow to her will as you seek to bend yours.

Change “Stay and Struggle” to “Strive and Thrive.”

Americans love Aussies. Cash-in on the caché that only your amazing accent and place of origin can offer.

Fill the gap in your local library, community center or after-school program or take the plunge and create your very own business.

The opportunities before you are limitless, not to mention heavily supported by free trade organizations, inter-developmental country liaison programs, and multi-cultural outreach associations, the list goes on.

Get creative. Leave no stone unturned. And don’t take no for an answer.

Life is truly what you make of it, and it certainly feels like you are home.

Just be willing to surrender and start over again to have what you’ve always truly desired,

A Family and a Home.

DearJames®