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My Next Move

DearJames,

What should my next move be to improve my love life?

Anonymous

Dear My Next Move,

The winds of retreat and relaxation are calling your name. It’s easy to get caught up in the game, especially when we are talking about romance. As a goal / career-oriented being, your desire for love often takes a back seat to your overachieving nature.

It’s not that you don’t desire love, romance, and all the adoring attention, you do, it simply comes at a cost. When you’re in love, you are unstoppable.  Driven to succeed on a different “field of dreams.”

Your best bet in improving your love life is to recognize your need for balance and recuperation. When too much of life is slanted in one direction or another, everything goes off kilter. Your natural response is to control all aspects of life, so you feel safe, secure, confident, and put together.

However, that level of achievement and energetic rarely works well in the romance department.

To find and feel love you must be love.

You have to be willing to trust in life, let life happen, organically in the moment versus planned out in every detail. Take this time to retreat. To discover the real, you. The one you try so hard to cover up, manage, and control.

Once you unleash this rare gem there’ll be no turning back as she’ll surprise even you and the best of your friends, family, and colleagues. What emerges will be of such a relaxed, high-quality essence, she will naturally resonate and attract similar suitors.

Guard against any air of arrogance though and simply BE the innate, natural beauty that you are.

It’s time to hit the reset button…How lucky you are!!!

DearJames®