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Lost And Alone

DearJames,

After a 28-yr marriage my husband texted me that he wanted a divorce. No explanation. I am 63 years old and the way he did it made me feel like a useless piece of trash. I have spent this past year exploring my spirituality in hopes that I will get some answers, not about why he did it, but rather about what in me has made me feel so unworthy. It hasn’t helped. I feel let down by God, my angels, and the Universe. What am I doing wrong? I feel so lost and alone.

Kathy

Dear Lost And Alone,

God, your angels and the Universe never forsake or abandon anyone.  They are ever present in your life even when you believe them to have fled or abandoned you.  It cannot be any other way, for they are the eternal providers of limitless love, peace, faith, joy and hope.

They illumine your path and way forward in life, so you may experience and achieve a greater sense of self and conscious awareness.  It is only by transcending that which no longer serves you that you truly “see” that which has been there all along.

It is your current perception of your circumstances that colors, shades or obscures your path, their perceived absence, and the greater truths that lie upon it.  Move from victimhood to co-creator and your perceptions will change dramatically for the better.

By texting you his desire for a divorce, the man you shared the past 28-years with demonstrated to you once again, who he really is and the lessons and experiences he must face and transcend in this lifetime or those yet to come.

His lack of self-respect, self-value, care, empathy and compassion for himself and others need not and must not become yours.  Do not wear this cloak of lack, denial and shame a minute longer, rather, return it to whence it came and know that it served a valuable and priceless lesson in your growing wiser, stronger and thus learning your true value and self-worthiness.

It is only because you continue to wear this cloak of shame and lack that you perceive God, your angels and the Universe to have forsaken or abandoned you.  Once you realize that it is he who abandoned himself and others, not you, that you will come to see this experience for what it truly is, one of the greatest life gifts you have been given.

Every life experience is a gift; you just have to be open to discovering it.

In this, you deserve better, you deserve joy, peace and happiness, you deserve freedom and you are the only person in the universe who has the power to grant all of them unto your self.  You and you alone hold this power and God, your angels and the Universe stand beside you waiting for you to see them and their presence in your life again.

However, you must be willing to see their presence in every act or experience you co-create, not just the perceived “good ones.”  It is in the challenging, daunting times and hardships that their presence is most revealed, for they are guiding you to ever higher ground and levels of conscious awareness.

It is only by burying your head in the sand or viewing your circumstances from the vantage point of victim, that you actually knowingly or unknowingly abandon them.

KNOW the power you hold within.  KNOW they stand with you every moment of every day.  KNOW you need only seek and see their presence in your life for it to be revealed unto you.  KNOW you are loved even at your darkest, most broken hour.

Then, KNOW that you are never lost, for you are always somewhere, and that you are never alone, for you always have your soul-self relationship, and that is the greatest gift of all.

DearJames®

DearJames,

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I will try to remember them.

Lost And Alone

Dear Lost And Alone,

Remember most of all that you hold the power within to change everything. Your feelings, perceptions, life direction, everything. Just as a beautiful butterfly emerges from its cocoon to bring delicateness and beauty to the world, so too will you. Trust in this and all will blossom within you.

DearJames®

DearJames,

Please tell me how to do that. How do I access that power within me? I am 63 years old now and most likely don’t have too much time to figure it all out on my own.

Lost And Alone

Dear Lost And Alone,

SURRENDER and be still. Practice stillness daily. When your thoughts drift to ego-mind-personality chatter, bring yourself back to center. Ask God, Source, Angels, Guides, and the Universe to help you heal while also revealing to you the wisdom you seek.

By surrendering, you let go of all the hurt. The elements of the ego-mind-personality that no longer serves you. It is only by surrendering that you truly free yourself, thus you make room for all that God has to show you.

I speak of God from a spiritual viewpoint, not a religious one, as God is in all of creation, which means God is a part of you.

Practice mindful solace and solitude and CHOOSE to experience life with a renewed sense of vitality and purpose.

Age is simply a number. And you are never too old nor time too short unless you believe it to be so.

DearJames®