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Let Love Lead The Way

DearJames,

I have fallen in love with a man who is 20 years older than me and I’m the happiest I have ever been. I don’t feel that age is an issue, as none of our days are promised. I like who I am, when I’m with him, and I like the life that we are just now starting together. However, he seems to be struggling with the age difference. As I am younger and still working, and he is retired, how long do you think it will take him to just let love lead the way and let the age thing fall to the wayside?

Anonymous

Dear Let Love Lead The Way,

Love knows no boundaries for it is limitless by its very nature. It cannot be defined by age or race, religion or gender, culture, or coincidence.

LOVE JUST IS.

The beauty from your vantage point stems from your youthful wisdom and perspective. Youth by its very nature embodies innocence and optimism. Your partner on the other hand looks through the lens of past experiences, life lessons, judgments, perspectives, the list goes on.

In that, you are both equal measure optimist and pessimist.

Colliding forces sent to balance the greater nature of the other. Do not look to convince him of his beliefs, instead, simply listen and understand his concerns, fears, and doubts, as they are real and valid to him, until they aren’t.

He sees only through the prism of his own truths and until he chooses to evolve those truths, they remain.

Through a willingness to persist, you may alter the winds of the mighty willow, bending its very nature, instead of snapping it in two. Like anything so rare, it will take both time and much needed patience as the mighty willow only knows what it knows until it knows something different.

Be the buttress from the cascading winds, knowing your union carries great lessons of love and learning for you both. In time, having weathered each storm, you will know what you knew then, that you love one another.

Only this time, it will be born out of a knowingness of time, commitment, trust, care, and triumph, not innocence or fear.

All will find its way to you in time, in the meantime, be resolute.

DearJames®