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I Feel So Crushed


I am currently single but completely in love with my six-month old daughter’s father. I spend a lot of time with him and my daughter. However, I can’t take much more, as he does not care for me like I care for him. I feel so crushed inside and do not know what to do.


Dear I Feel So Crushed,

Always remember your innate inner beauty, strength, and wisdom.  You are whole and complete just as you are. When love is not reciprocated in-kind, it can sting, hurt, and cause pain, however, do not overlook the obvious. This man is being honest and forthright with you. He is telling where he stands, what he is capable of or ready for, and you would be wise to listen to him even when your heart desires a different outcome.

As the father of your child does not have the same feelings for you as you do for him, in the most loving manner possible, remove yourself from his company until you are able to love him in another way. Remember, while you may not be a couple, you will forever be the parents of a beautiful child, and that takes precedence.

Focus on her wellbeing by demonstrating your own, your own self-value, self-worth, and self-love. By changing course willingly, you allow everyone the opportunity to grow and evolve, to take the high road. In time, he may come to change his mind. If he does, the ball will be in your court to decide whether you still have romantic feelings for him and give him a second chance or is it in your / everyone’s best interests to simply keep things as they are.

If he doesn’t change his mind, you will have the benefit of knowing this vital piece of information early on so you may plan your life accordingly. What’s most important is that each of you, and the child you brought into the world, achieve, and experience a life of peace, love, joy, fulfillment, and happiness.

Life is far too precious and short to waste. And the joy and blessings of the precious gift you chose, your daughter, will teach you many great things as you will her. Focus on the positive aspects and what you do have in life. Make room for the unexpected and unknown. Cherish, love, and embrace this knowing there are no mistakes in life, only grand opportunities to learn, grow, evolve, and transcend.

However it plays out, you will see the reason(s) why things are as they are. How you were afforded a different path of opportunity and every moment of grace you experienced along the way. True wisdom and gratitude for the wondrous journey your soul chose to experience in this lifetime.