How Do I Begin

The loss of any one person is heartbreaking, to lose both of your parents is simply gut wrenching.  There are no words or magic wands or even secret formulas for how to ease the pain, lift the fog, and render the joy of life bright again.

It simply takes time and a lot of faith to see the greater levity and beauty in life.

We all come here to experience life.  Some souls chose great tragedy as a means to transcend and triumph.  Others choose to experience loss to gain greater wisdom of humanity and the delicate balance of inter-personal relationships that are forged because of it.

You chose hard and heavy. However, you also chose well.  It is only by living through the depths of loss and anguish you are currently experiencing that you will one day arrive at a place of greater inner peace and understanding.

One is rarely ever able to see the true gifts/opportunities present in each challenge while standing in the eye of the hurricane.  It is only after it has passed that one begins to assess their standing, their perceived losses, and the way forward forged by the rebuilding of new life.

Find comfort and solace in the times you shared together and for the times you have yet to share.  For just because they no longer walk the earth plane with you does not mean they no longer walk beside you, within you.

You will always be a part of them just as they remain a part of you, each leaving an indelible mark of existence upon and within the other.  At your greatest times of sorrow and despair, force yourself to remember all that they taught you and then seek to honor their teachings, their legacy, by being a living example of the same.

It is okay to laugh and live again, and more importantly, it is okay to love again.  Love yourself, your daughter, your sister, and all of life again with all your being.

You will come to find that love is and always will be all you ever really need in life.  Do not withhold or abandon it out of fear, anger, resentment, or depression. Instead embrace ways by which you can amplify it.

Begin by beginning. Remind yourself at every turn that life is worth more than just living, it’s worth celebrating and experiencing, and you play the lead role in how you will experience it.

From this moment forward, COMMIT to EXPAND – CEASE to CONTRACT, while forever bidding adieu to feeling as though everything is crashing down upon you.

You are life, and you have many great reasons to LIVE.  Rise up and embrace them all.  May God bless and keep you always.