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Hard Knock Life

DearJames,

I have had 9 lifetimes in this one. I have had to do everything alone; schooling, raising my two sons, work, and now I am alone, but I like being alone. BUT my journey brought me among liars, cheaters, betrayers, etc.: rejected and used. So now I just tell it like it is and people really do not like that; so, I keep to myself and sometimes I feel so sad my life was so hard and what was accomplished had to be a solo adventure. I never felt like I belonged here: Black Sheep in the Family. Couldn’t wrap my mind around that! But now, I just feel so sad that no one really likes me. I know it is because I call a dead horse a dead horse. (Mercury in Scorpio) I really say what is on my mind and no longer care if people respect that because I have found NO ONE to be honest and sincere. I have stopped trying to meet anyone and have isolated myself and just enjoy animals and dislike people. They seem so stupid. Don’t know what you can say to me: I am 68.

Anonymous

Dear Hard Knock Life,

I already know you aren’t going to like what I have to say; however, you wrote to me and I am compelled to deliver the message; so deliver it I shall.

Just like the hit song from the musical Annie, It’s a Hard Knock Life, your life to date mirrors the struggles young, orphaned Annie faces in the orphanage.

A life of deceit, abuse, manipulation, ruses, mistrusts, illusions, delusions, rag times, no riches.  A life of sinister liaisons and sorrow: not sunshine or success.  And yet, just like orphan Annie, you have something great buried within you.

It was her chutzpah and raw, authentic, beautiful soul that delivered her to better times and certainly, better people and places.

It was her unwavering belief in not being defined by her circumstances or experiences that allowed her to flourish.  Her unyielding belief that she had something great to offer others and the world, that sustained her.

Every person or situation she encountered made her stronger, more agile; more resolute.  In the end, fairy-tale or not, she succeeds by saving herself from the clutches of desperation and despair.

She proves not only to herself, but also to everyone else, that you mustn’t judge a book by its cover and that you get far more in life with love than you ever will with hate.

In either case; love or hate; the Universe merely gives you more of that which you choose to envelop yourself; it is simply the natural law of the Universe.  Each time you choose to close another part of yourself off from love; from light, you willfully cloak yourself in yet another layer of misery, hate, resentment and burden.

However, whether you are 68 or 6, it needn’t matter, for it is never too late to turn things around.  The mere fact that you wrote to me is a sign that you are searching your soul for a lighter and brighter way forward.

Deny yourself no longer the gift of truly loving and trusting yourself; for once you truly come to love yourself and discern the gifts in the experiences you chose, you will understand the enormity of your purpose and power and the hand you play in shaping your life…your destiny.

The sun will come out tomorrow: Will you allow it in?

DearJames®