Big Dreamer

Big Fish Small Pond.

When you have a lot going for you, it takes time to find an equitable partner. Part patience, part love thyself more, is all that is required while you wait.

Also, all work and no play makes for a dull day, just as looking for love in all the wrong places leaves you longing for more. The reason you feel like you’re “doing something wrong” is because you are too focused on what you purportedly don’t have: LOVE.

Internal feelings of external lack create anxiety and self-doubt.

You would be wise to step back from the search long enough to first, really fall in love with yourself, and then another. Take yourself out on some dates, your soul-self. Get to know her. See what she really likes, wants, and desires. What makes her insecure? What makes her calm and confident? What makes her smile from the inside, out?

How is she different from the ego-mind-personality persona you’ve been living?

Once you’ve truly experienced and expressed the answer to these soul-stirring questions, you’ll be ready to truly entertain the company of another. It’s not that you don’t already have it going on, because you do. However, you may just have too much going on and thus in your search for utopia, you’ve begun to look externally to fulfill what ultimately can only be fulfilled internally, by you.

Oneness means being unified and whole to begin with, lest you be two halves in need of a whole.

In finding your true self, you’ll also come to smooth the edges of areas in need of contour. Judgment of others ultimately equates to judgment of self, so employ the use of a fine brush and scalpel in honing, molding, and reshaping your finer self.

In the end, you’ll be glad you embarked on this solo discovery of your soul-self, because waiting just around the corner is the man in the mirror that will reflect to you, the new and improved you. The collective “YOU” you’ve been searching for.