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Breakup Makeup Couple

DearJames,

Becoming a breakup, makeup, couple again. I’m so distraught seeing every side and I’m so confused and losing any sight of any lesson. Is it me? Is it him? Is it meant to be but my insecurity ruins all? Who’s at fault by truly withholding affection? Please help me find some clarity.

Torn

Dear Breakup Makeup Couple,

When you’re in the eye of the hurricane, it is always wise to remain sheltered as the storms outer reach has yet to pass over you. By riding out the storm, you don’t tempt fate or challenge energies that may be greater than yourself.

Instead, hold fast, allowing the magnitude of the storm to pass you by so you may reemerge in clear blue skies and calmer seas.

The same applies to your relationship and its ever-increasing back-and-forth, push-and-pull energies. It’s not yet safe to come out from your respective shelters, as you are still not seeing things clearly.

Hurricanes form as a culmination of specific natural elements, all forming and colliding at the same time. So too is your relationship a culmination of natural elements all building and playing out in ever-increasing wattages of emotion, insecurities, energies, and forces.

What you find after the storm has passed is what was either spared or destroyed by either a direct hit and/or everything in between. Spare yourselves any further harm on this path of destruction by agreeing to disengage your forces.

It doesn’t matter who did what in the past, it only matters what each of you chooses in the present. To spend more time and energy parsing blame only serves to elongate any ongoing suffering and destruction.

You have the opportunity to create a masterful harmonic symphony, fiery not volatile, passionate not destructive, with fluid moments of movement and crescendo, percussion and prelude.

Instead, this relationship beats like someone banging a bass drum, tiresome and repetitive, gut-wrenching, and deafening.

Follow your inner wisdom, your inner knowing to a place of restful dreams and renewal. One where you are not only made whole again but also nourished, and replenished. From this renewed state you will be able to see all with crystal clear vision, an open and honest heart, and profound appreciation for having weathered the storm.

DearJames®