Will I Move On

The Bill Withers hit “Ain’t No Sunshine”…when she’s gone, captures the underlying essence of all that ails you.

All the unhappy moments between you are due to a lack of commitment and communication.

The mystique of marriage wears off soon after the honeymoon and that’s when most married couples first encounter problems.

Somehow all that ails us emotionally, is brought back to the forefront once all the stress and euphoria has evaporated from the planning and execution of the nuptials and fairytale vacation.

Life has a way of settling back into reality and it is your individual and collective realities that you are seeking to run away from.

You’re not the first wife to feel this way, nor will you be the last.

What you can be though, is the first to recognize this truth in yourself and move to earnestly confront it.

Before the years of marriage, you’ve already put in vanish, it’s worth the effort to see if you’re not able to rekindle the magic that once was.

Both parties of a marriage owe it to themselves to be forthcoming, transparent, and communicative with themselves and one another. If you’re going to lose the relationship, anyway, isn’t it better to do so knowing you left no stone unturned?

While the complacent actions of your husband may have led you to believe he is unhappy in the marriage, presuming he believes life would be better off without you is quite another.

Deep down, all you really need to do here is commit to communicate, while also committing to a whole new individual and collective you.

Nothing new or good ever stems from perpetuating the same old thoughts, behaviors, and actions.

Change is inevitable and marriage is something you choose every day.

That said, one is wise to understand that change also comes in many forms and varieties, sometimes the least of which is divorce.

Commit to investigating the change that feels best for you, understanding that whichever choice you make, you will be changed in the process.

In that you will always prosper and grow accordingly.