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Unsure
- DATING/RELATIONSHIPS
- MARRIAGE/ENGAGEMENT/WEDDING
- ACCOUNTABILITY/RESPONSIBILITY
DearJames,
Should I marry the man I am with? Am I making a mistake?
Bug
Dear Unsure,
There are no mistakes in life, only grand opportunities for learning, experiencing, and evolving.
This is more a case of are you really ready to marry than it is a case of should I marry this man?
Every stage of consciousness, or the lack thereof, brings about grand opportunities for learning.
You have been on autopilot for quite some time now. Life has taken on a series of beige undertones, and you are just now becoming conscious of this fact.
When you operate in autopilot you abdicate your responsibility for knowing your charted course.
Where are the pitfalls, mountainsides, valleys, stormy skies, turbulence?
In the same vein, if you don’t know where the dangers lie, how could you possibly know how to avoid them let alone celebrate the victories and triumphs.
You need to take a serious time out to understand your current terrain, accountability, and best way forward.
This man may indeed be the right one, however, marrying him when you are not in a clear state of conscious awareness is going to create unfulfilled dreams and desires.
And that is an unfortunate place from which to begin what is to be a life long commitment.
He can’t fix or completely compensate for that which ails you internally.
That is an inside job that only you can address, and course correct.
You’ll have a greater set of life experiences when you look to mind your own backyard before willfully adjoining two properties, only to realize later you weren’t really ready for a communal back yard.
Take a beat. Take a breath. And then do what is necessary to place yourself on a more stable footing and foundation.
50-years from now you’ll both be happy you did.