These Two Men

A heaping handful of heartache is headed your way.  And whether it arrives in the form of silent self-torment, or the more explosive secrets exposed manner won’t make much of a difference.

Ultimately, it’s your soul crying out to be heard. It’s just unfortunate you chose to express it in this manner.

Loving the man, you are married to is great, fooling yourself into believing that what you feel for this other man will cure what ails you isn’t.

Marriage is something you choose every day, it’s a commitment before God, friends, and family.  And just because the tough times rear their head, that’s no excuse for stepping out.  If anything, it’s a time for stepping up, when you are meant to step further into your marriage, into yourself.

Infidelity /Cheating /Adultery is the easy way out.  Not having to deal with any uncomfortable topics or conversations, no having to look at oneself and the role they play in having arrived at the intersection of unsatisfied dreams and unfulfilled desires, no care or concern, just easy satisfaction…Until it isn’t, until it all comes crashing in, down.

In the end, you actually chose the harder route.  Now you will be faced with not only having to deal with what was lacking in your marriage that you did not earnestly communicate and work through, but also the betrayal and broken trust.

It’s important for you to note that you are each worthy of far more than your current level of unconsciousness and wavering self-respect.

Would you really want to permanently be with a man who believes it’s acceptable to have an affair?  Will your willful engagement change when you find yourself on the receiving end of the same treatment?

Will you wonder if you and your accomplice are really revealing all of yourselves to one another since you’re not really free to do so?  If you’re not thinking about these types of things, you should be.

I hope you’ll think long and hard about your actions and the harm you are heaping upon yourself and the man you promised yourself to.  It is often said, it’s not why you leave but how you leave that matters.

Whether you stay or go is not the issue. Your respect, care, and concern for yourself and others, is.  Respect yourself and husband enough to do the right and honorable thing…COMMUNICATE.

Then see what may be left to save of your marriage/relationship whether together or apart.