Sticking Through This

PTSD is a serious issue that can completely take control and immobilize someone, robbing them of their ability to live and function in a “normal” manner.

The trauma experienced and endured by this man and the resulting depth of each scar is unknown to everyone except this man and perhaps those who served with him. There is no magic pill or potion that will alleviate his suffering or offer you the “perfect” man and moment you enjoyed months ago.

PTSD can be triggered by any number of seemingly normal or routine events, from a car backfiring to a slammed door, to sleepless nights and nightmares, to elevated levels of stress. The list is long and challenging, however, there is always hope and professional assistance.

For his best interests and yours as a couple, this man of your dreams should seek immediate professional care / treatment and assistance. There are several different treatment options and resources available to him. The sooner he addresses the issue and embraces one or more of these options, the better life will be for all involved.

Understand that this is an issue of survival for him and not a rejection of you and the relationship you have with one another. The greater your self-confidence, security, and stability, the greater the chances your union will stand the test of time.

The last thing anyone suffering from PTSD wants is to negatively affect another. It is not something he or she is necessarily in control of, thus his isolation, silence, and distance. This is where professional assistance and support groups will help him to heal and cope.

Advancing to a new way of living…being rather than returning to who he once was. He faces a long road of recovery and rehabilitation. Whether you are able and/or willing to walk beside him is a question only you can answer. This is a part of who he is, until it isn’t. So, make informed decisions based on facts and truth not fairytale visions.

You are each deserving of the love you have with and for the other. The greater issue is whether each of you will do what is necessary to achieve a secure foundation while also accommodating for the ebb and flow of this present intruder and the healing process required to cope and overcome it.

Offer him the love, support, space, and compassion he requires while also encouraging him to seek professional assistance. At the same time, begin the inner work you require to develop a stronger sense of self-value, self-worth, self-love, etc. You are both in this together whether you realize it or not. How you each walk your respective journey’s is the key.

In the end, no matter the outcome, you will each become wiser, stronger, and more self-assured. You will have within you and between a priceless journey of self-discovery. One the likes of which you have here-to-for never experienced.

Priceless gifts shared between two souls as you navigate life.