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New Direction | Honesty
- DATING/RELATIONSHIPS
- ADDICTION
- LIFE DIRECTION/PURPOSE
DearJames,
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We both had issues with addiction and abuse (physical) not towards each other though. He is in a state up north and I just moved to the South to be with family, with the hopes that he will step up and carry his end. Meaning, save money for a place together here. We want to be married and I’m committed to this relationship, but he is spending all his money on drugs and is constantly lying to me about everything. I love him so much. I really do. I feel like I’m in limbo. Please help. I need some good advice about the direction I should go and how to get there.
Dawn
Dear New Direction | Honesty,
You are not in limbo, for you made one of the greatest decisions one could ever make for themselves and their future; you chose to move forward by going home to be with family. You chose to distance yourself from a life of drugs, addiction and abuse and attempt to begin anew.
That is not limbo; that is the beginning of a new life, a better way forward.
While your heart may ache for this man, you need to clearly see and understand that his, in this given moment, aches for something greater…his next fix. And that is a battle you will lose every time. He and he alone will choose his own destiny: his fate.
Do not become a casualty of his unconsciousness.
Better than that, continue to empower yourself with every willful thought, word and action you create. Begin anew by earnestly releasing the pain you carry and the baggage you created. The lighter the load, the lighter the burdens.
You need not look back as you journey forward, for it is by journeying onward that you gain a new perspective. Time and distance heal all, if we allow them to. In time, if you are earnest in your desires, you will come to live a life of peace and abundance.
As a young girl, you stopped and smelled the roses. You were filled with love, laughter and life. You were in awe of life and its many facets. Today, you are in search of finding her again.
You need only look within you to find that which you seek. She stands with out stretched hands, waiting to gently grasp yours, so as to remember all of the playful joyousness you once exuded so effortlessly.
You have not lost her, nor has she forsaken you. She merely sat quietly waiting for you to rediscover the place upon the path by which you departed from her. Trust that each of you knows all and that by giving up that which you carry, you are cleansed…healed.
And when the winds of time and distance attempt to draw you back, stand firm and resolute in your new skin…your new identity. For it will be the newly discovered trust you find within your being that allows you to speak your truth with self-assuredness and honesty.
And that is a journey worth living.