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Missing The Mark

DearJames,

I feel that my whole life I’ve been underachieving, missing the mark, and coming up short of my potential. Success eludes me. I have trouble following through, earning a living, and completing projects, though I’ve improved.

I’m always tired and often distracted. I’m happy but I feel like the energy to plan and execute ideas confuses and exhausts me. Though I have made great strides in my life, I wish I could harness my creativity and intelligence to express myself.

Though I love daydreaming and resting, I want to feel more alive. Is it diet, ADD, a repressed thought, a mental block? Help me find a breakthrough. I want to evolve. I want to create. I want to know God.

Theodore

Dear Missing The Mark,

The flow of that which evades you also pervades you. “It’s all in the playing” as Shirley MacLaine said.

It’s as if the closer you get to that which you seek, the further away it becomes. A serendipitous moving of the goal posts if-you-will. However, it doesn’t feel serendipitous to you, it feels frustrating, elusive, self-deprecating, and self-defeating. The more time you spend in your head, the more time you feel disconnected from the realty.

This is not to say that the time spent in your head dreaming, creating, writing, resting, and being mindful isn’t of great or paramount value as it is. It’s just that it also simultaneously distances and distracts you from the 3D world in which you live and reside. And therein lies both the conundrum and the opportunity; how to bridge these two realities so you truly live, create, and experience life.

Clearly you are meant to experience the life you are living as nothing ever occurs by accident. On the contrary, life is a highly orchestrated, incredibly intricate, purposeful, interwoven creation your soul chose to co-create and manifest with and through the Divine. The trick is in merging the multiple fields of reality that are seen and unseen. A complete life review where you become uber conscious of your thoughts, patterns, routines, choices, etc. would do you wonders.

God, Source, The Universe, The Unseen, are consistently challenging our perceived wisdom and knowledge. They test the limits of our understanding, our capacity for change, and our willingness to grow and evolve, ascend if-you-will. That which is called God is a living God, a vast spectrum of unity consciousness and expression. It is not a stagnant, fixed, invisible being who ceases to evolve, reinvent, and re-imagine itself.

So, seek out and remain open to the many ways by which you may bridge these two worlds. When one or more ways rise to the surface, seize them, and commit to following them to their conclusion. Keep coming back to them until you feel you have successfully experienced and completed their offering. While this may be challenging to do based on the issues you are experiencing, there are ways to overcome the distractions and lack of follow through. Keep a list, set electronic reminders, place sticky notes, or index cards about as reminders. Remain fluid yet committed.

This in and of itself is success as it requires commitment, discernment, focus, fluidity, faith, and a belief in serving something higher than oneself. Addressing and revising your diet, health, and exercise regimen along with investigating potential neurobiological disorders will assist you in improving your current circumstances.

Is both your health and diet an issue? Yes.  You would benefit from a healthier diet? Yes. Would you benefit from physical exercise and activity? Yes. Would you benefit from reducing and/or eliminating refined, processed foods, sugars, and sweets, especially excessive intake of them? Yes. Would you benefit from professional assistance, medical-neurological-nutrition/dietician? Yes.

Your body and brain are aching for, almost screaming out for healthier options. Natural/vegan/raw/Mediterranean options. The Mediterranean “diet” is an optimal choice for you while also incorporating plenty of liquids like herbal teas, alkaline-based water, cold pressed juices chock full of vitamins, antioxidants, and the like, as well as occasional infusions of chlorophyll found in wheatgrass.

Be mindful in both your approach and experimentation with the above options. As you seek to strike the right balance, trial and error is to be expected.  Too much or too little of any one element can and will adjust the scales of harmony and balance. So, go slow, be patient and thorough with yourself and the process, and LISTEN to your body as it will SPEAK to you.

Eventually, the balance and improvement you seek between mind, body, and spirit can and will be achieved. Listen to and lead with your soul, and don’t be afraid to try, to begin, to ask for assistance.  That inner voice of wisdom and clarity, your soul, will never lead you astray.

Aside from the above, meet and deal with the seven-year-old child you left behind and dare one say abandoned. He holds all the cards, all that you’ve been seeking for the better part of your lifetime and are finally ready to address and make peace with. Integrate some form of all of this, and once you do, you’ll find the strength, clarity, and vitality you thought was missing. You’ll realize everything you ever needed was already within you, you just needed a helping hand from the Unseen.

And lastly, remember to never again give away your power to another person.  You are whole, sovereign, and infinitely worthy. Go ahead, get started, YOU’VE GOT THIS!!!

DearJames®