Just Tell Me

Wow…where do I begin? Well, it’s usually best to start at the beginning, as that’s where everything originates…at least in this lifetime’s events. Of course, holdovers from past life experiences are at play here as well, but we’ll get to that in a bit.

Sparks flew when the two of you first met, and yet, you weren’t overly keen on going out with him, as you fancied him a player…a ladies’ man. And yet there was this uncontrollable urge / desire to “get to know him better,” so as to not improperly or impolitely “judge” him out of hand.

Suffice it to say, those sparks burned rather intensely, and you found yourself in a heated relationship with this man. Everything was happening faster than you could control and that caused you a lot of grief and insecurity, yet deep feelings and emotions. A mixed bag: one would say.

As things progressed, your insecurities fed his and it became a vicious cycle of love, hate, fidelity, infidelity. Each causing the other increased anguish, resentment, and pain.

Neither of you can “save” the other. That is always reserved as an inside job, meaning, you must each face your own demons and dreams head-on, so as not to burden the other with unreasonable expectations that just serve to spin you into a continuous negative / positive cycle.

I know you love this man, and yes, he loves and has feelings for you too. However, sometimes that just isn’t enough, or it can be too much. There’s a tremendous amount of co-dependency taking place in this relationship, and it is all rooted in the lives you shared in the past.

The only way you will know if this relationship is meant to truly go the distance, is for you to each surrender and forgive one another and then seek to earnestly COMMUNICATE openly and honestly with one another without attaching pre-conceived outcomes to each discussion.

In other words, communicate openly and honestly with one another, regardless of the outcome. Once you release the outcome, you release all the fear and anxiety, thus, opening the door for real growth and soul evolution.

You’ll each come out of this far ahead of where you started; and that is why we started at the beginning.

Love and respect yourselves enough to discover that which already lies within. You’ll be glad you did.