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Do I Wait On Him
- LOVE
- INFIDELITY
- PAST/FUTURE
DearJames,
I’ve been separated from my husband for a little over five months now but have been seeing my long-lost love during the separation. Our relationship caused his wife to divorce him and his kids to hate me. He has also been charged with domestic assault, that never happened, and is now being forced to leave town for a month or so. His wife & her new boyfriend are powerful people in our town. My question is, do I wait on him once again, or do I try to move on? Will things work out or will they fall apart?
Love
Dear Do I Wait On Him,
This just screams mess and that is made even more palpable by the number of people that have been affected.
I say this over and over and over again about relationships, it’s not why you leave but how you leave that matters.
The choices you both made to pursue your feelings, in the way you did so, at the expense of so many others, have been selfish, reckless, and abysmal.
They lack the simplest of manners, courtesy, grace, respect, self-respect, decorum, the list goes on.
They have left a vast wasteland of broken hearts, worn and frustrated emotions, and shattered dreams in their wake, and now you want to know if you are meant to wait on him yet again or try to move on.
One doesn’t mean to be harsh with you, however, the utter lack of consciousness and accountability in your thinking is astounding.
You helped create a massive storm that has and continues to rain golf ball size hail down upon those affected and because everyone has turned against the two of you and he has had to temporarily relocate, shall we say, you want to run for cover.
Respect is a lifelong road.
Sometimes its path is easy, other times it requires great effort, will, discipline, and determination for it is never simply given freely, it is earned.
You and your long-lost love have a long and arduous journey ahead of you.
And one hopes that for no other reason than having something good come from so much bad, that you travel this road of recovery and redemption together.
Everyone deserves to be happy, however, it must never come at the expense or cost of another, and certainly not by such destructive means.
Own your actions and involvement in the life circumstances you have created.
Atone for them by facing your casualties with a humbled heart, offering them your most sincere apology.
Then release it and move forward by never committing such willful acts of destruction again.
As I have already stated, you have a long journey ahead of you whether you choose to wait for this man or not.
Choose a path of enlightenment.