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Consciously Aware
- PAST/FUTURE
- BREAKUP/SEPARATION/DIVORCE
- LIFE DIRECTION/PURPOSE
DearJames,
I feel my soul craving more than what I am living on a daily basis. I feel that it is inevitable that separation/divorce is going to happen sometime in the future. He has the qualities of being a great man but has too many “mistakes” to speak of, but at times it breaks my heart to think of breaking his, and other times I’m ready to walk out the door and not look back.
Am I just being ungrateful or un-appreciative of what I have in my life, or is this something that I need to pursue?
I’m currently working on earning my master’s degree but have quite a while before this is completed. I just want to be successful in my life, fulfill my purpose, and enjoy the path my soul’s journey takes me on.
Consciously Aware
Dear Consciously Aware,
This has everything to do with you and very little to do with him.
We often dream big in the beginning, when we are still doe-eyed, a bit naïve to life and believe all things are conquerable even when our intuition tells us otherwise.
Your husband is the same man today as he was the day you met and married him.
He’s loving and kind, albeit a bit boring, lazy, uninterested, and semi unconscious.
Welcome to the current state of affairs for the vast majority of the male species.
He hasn’t changed…You Have!
You’ve become more evolved, enlightened, consciously aware, ambitious, and interested in life.
Fault him not for being the same great guy, instead seek to honor him and yourself by releasing him so each of you might find love and companionship commensurate to your level of growth and conscious awareness.
By living a lie, you perpetuate a myth. A story of happily ever after when you are anything but happy.
You’re suffocating day-by-day because you’ve outgrown the environment you once cherished.
Somewhere along the journey you failed to communicate your evolution and soul growth to him, and he failed to notice or inquire, and now acts of failure are occurring.
There’s no need or room for blame, just open dialogue, honesty, respect, care, love, empathy, and compassion.
While change isn’t easy, especially when there is nothing “negative or wrong” with the situation, the change brought on by soul growth evolution must be acknowledged and embraced.
Couples Counseling is always an option too, however, there’s a palpable sense that this ship has already sailed for you and you’re just looking for the right time or opportunity to sail solo.
Have an earnest discussion with your husband, express your soul, and then sit back and listen as his soul demonstrates its expression.
In the end, however emotionally challenging and/or rewarding the journey, you will seek to do right by one another IF you hold one another in the highest regard.
Neither of you need suffer harm, hurt, or embarrassment.
On the contrary, this continuing journey of self-expression should result in a greater depth of mutual love, respect, understanding, and appreciation between the parties involved.
How could it not, when conscious awareness is truly at the heart and soul of your every intention.