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Lost & Confused

DearJames,

I’m so lost and confused. My husband and I have been married for 9 years. The past few years have been a total struggle. My job is thriving yet not good enough for him. I am at my wits end. So many decisions I need to make but not sure of how it would affect me in the long run.

Would it be best to start a single life? Can I make it alone? What do you see for my future involving love and career?

Anonymous

Dear Lost & Confused,

The journey of what you are expressing began long before your marriage, he simply agreed to be the catalyst that brings it all out into the open.

 

Hidden deep within you is a powerful feeling of self-loathing, abandonment, and a lack of will or desire to overcome that which incessantly gnaws away at you due to your inner belief and fear of failure.

 

His disapproving and often condescending nature towards you are a direct result of the sacred soul commitment you asked of each other before ever arriving or “incarnating” into this lifetime.

 

He is the perfect mirror by which you are able to see your truest nature, goodness, love, wholeness, clarity, peace.

 

It is through the lens of “opposites” that our greatest lessons of achievement are experienced and attained – transcended…if-you-will.

 

Only by wrapping ourselves in the “cloak of the lesson” do we become the lesson, thus denying ourselves of its transcendence.

 

By looking in the mirror of your mate and taking on his disapproval, angst, anger, and frustrations, you wrap yourself in the cloak of that which you are to transcend.

 

Cast off this cloak – belief system of lack, insufficiency, control, and dependence and see the beauty in the gift you personally crafted for yourself.

 

The precious opportunity to once and for all come to know your sacred, innate, inner beauty, strength, wisdom, and truest nature by the reflection of his deeds, your opposite.

 

Once you understand and embrace this, you will accept your own greatness, transcend your fears, and move beyond the limitations, bonds, and shackles of this marriage, this soul arrangement-agreement.

 

The choice of when or how you come to this understanding is rooted in the natural law of “free-will.”  Thus, you will take as little or as long as you deem necessary to extract the pearls of wisdom your soul so graciously desired to learn and experience.

 

Your soul has been pushing, prompting, and prodding you to “MAKE CHANGES” for some time now.  It is only your “frozen feet upon the lake” that has held you in place.

 

Silently suffering can become an addictive element as it becomes the beast you already know and know so well.

 

This is a time of great change, transition, and transcendence both in the world and the inner self.

 

Avail yourself of this timely gift, this opportunity, by committing to not delay your sacred commitment to transformation and ever-ascending soul evolution.

 

The greatest of fears are the ones you choose to leave behind you, forever freeing yourself, your soul, to walk in purity and peace.

 

And that is EXACTLY what you promised yourself in this lifetime.  PURITY and PEACE.

 

Be Bold. Be Courageous. Be Free. Allow your life experiences to refine you not define you.

DearJames®