Should I Walk Away

Yes, by all means, you should walk away. The old adage “run don’t walk” is highly applicable. Keep walking / running, never turning back for even a second.

While this may seem harsh, direct, and unsettling, a clear dose of reality is what you need most. He did not, “not let you go,” you choose to not release him and his bad behavior. You are enabling him to have his cake and eat it too while simultaneously diminishing your own self-value, self-worth, dignity, etc.

People only treat you the way you allow them to, and this man has little regard for anyone else’s needs other than his own.

You are not a toy that someone plays with and then discards as they please once they tire of you or find a new, different toy. He can’t undo the harm caused nor return to you whenever he fancies unless you allow him to. And, while we are being brutally honest and direct, deep down “a leopard never changes its spots.” To quote Maya Angelou, “People are always showing you who they are, believe them the first time.”

“Your character is your fate.”

You are not responsible for his lack of character, honor, decency, and morals. You are however culpable and responsible for the decisions you make, especially when you are fully aware of the circumstances. You are, by your inherent value and worth as a human being, let alone as a woman, worthy of more. You simply must choose it.

While the heart wants what the heart wants, and relationships can be downright difficult and challenging at times, honor, faith, decency, loyalty, and character are not. These attributes are core principles one chooses to exemplify and live by, or they don’t.

You have been given the golden opportunity to see this man for who he truly is. You are being afforded the opportunity to remove him kindly and consciously from your life. To eliminate any further association with this form of mental and emotional abuse.

One could argue this has already “worked out for the best” for you. You are a whole and sovereign being with the ability to empower yourself. In the end, all decisions and choices are yours to make; make them with your highest and best interests at the forefront.

Choose to love yourself more.

Choose to love yourself enough.

Choose to believe in yourself, your value, your worth, your desirability and capability.

Choose to believe in all that you earnestly have to offer, both yourself, this world, and others.

Choose to live the life you truly desire and envision.

Choose to believe you are worthy of such a life, partner, spouse, and equal.

Choose to empower yourself.

Choose!