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I Need Some Direction In Life


I need some direction in life. I desire to be in a relationship and be married, but I always seem to attract or meet people that don’t appear to be serious or just want sex. Any advice on how I can or if I can stop that and attract and meet someone for me?

I’m clueless, and want to understand more clearly my life, direction, and what to do.


Dear I Need Some Direction In Life,

You can absolutely change the choices and circumstances that are recreating the same experiences and outcomes repeatedly in your life.

It’s literally as simple as choosing differently.

Now, that doesn’t mean you one day yell out, hey you, you’re attractive. I’m interested in being married so you’re now my husband. Far from it. As it has everything to do with your thoughts, beliefs, and actions and nothing to do with other people. We mirror and attract, consciously or unconsciously, the energy we emit.

Somewhere within you lies both the feeling and belief that you are not truly worthy of what you long for; a long-term, committed, loving relationship. So, to fill the gap, you emit both the willingness to accept something less and the lack from which it stems. If you don’t believe you are worthy of long-term commitment and marriage, why would someone else believe you are?

Human beings instinctively pick up on other people’s energies, spoken or unspoken. They can easily tell when someone is happy, sad, angry, needy, shady, available, or unavailable. This opens the floodgates for others to mirror back to you / take what you are emitting, or worse, encounter a master manipulator who sees and preys upon your every weakness.

The way to change this dynamic for good is to change the stories, scripts, and truths you tell believe and tell yourself. Change your internal thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, and dialogues you have with yourself. It’s nothing short of an inside job! Always has been. Always will be.

Begin by looking inward. Reprogram your brain. Clear out and rewrite all limiting and/or destructive beliefs, thoughts, habits, choices, and actions that do not align and support your desired outcome, your highest and best. Each time you sense a lesser element entering your consciousness, immediately stop and pivot. Do something to countermand it. Catch yourself in the act and remedy it immediately.

Ensure that your countermeasures serve the new you and not what leads you back down the same circuitous path. It’s an old cliché, but a true one, you need to “love yourself – love yourself more.” Once you commit to aligning every thought, action, and deed to that end, the outcome is assured. You will have changed, and thus so too will the people you meet.

Having become a new person, the “right” person for you will naturally appear; mirroring back to you the love you already have for yourself. No longer two halves searching for a whole, but rather two whole and complete individuals that compliment and enrich the other.

Clarity, not clueless, wins the day!