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Custody Battle

DearJames,

In the past two years I’ve suffered from the loss I felt after losing custody of my daughter. I was accused of physically abusing my daughter, sleeping around with multiple men in front of my daughter, and then abandoning her. All the accusations are completely false.

I’ve felt humiliated, ashamed, publicly ridiculed, and very lost. I have been trying to pick up the pieces of my life. I met the love of my life, and we are getting married soon. I’m trying to heal my relationship with my daughter, and I’ve gained more love than I know what to do with from my new family.

I still feel that emptiness from not having the most important piece of my heart in place, my daughter. Will I ever get her back? Will I ever get to redeem myself in the eyes of the court? Will my ex ever be made accountable for all the wrongs and hurt he’s caused? Will my daughter and I ever be able to completely heal from all this mess?

Unglued

Dear Custody Battle,

In the eyes of the Lord, you never lost her. That is where you will want to begin so you truly understand and transcend this lesson, heal, and move forward.

Buried in the details of the past lies The Truth. The only truth that matters. The soul agreement each soul agreed to and chose, your daughter included. Being both divine and neutral, no matter how harsh, these life experiences afford each soul the opportunity to experience themselves more fully.

Thus, that missing piece in your heart is missing the point. While the loss of physical custody, proximity, and care of your daughter may be deeply painful, no one, not even the courts or your ex, has the power to deny the love and bond that exists on a soul level.

Love is our universal language. Its energy and power transcend all other energies and the unconditional love you have for your daughter cannot be broken, other than by your own hand, your own choosing. Souls are connected on a far higher plane of existence than merely that of the physical realm.

Actions speak louder than words, so love your daughter regardless of where her “physical” presence may reside. Use your imagination to feel her touch and tenderness. Talk with her as though she were present, sharing your days, dreams, and life events. Keep a journal. Write her letters. Make voice recordings and save them all. For one day she will seek out what has been absent and withheld.

Know that she will receive and feel the energies you express. Consciously choose to express feelings of love and gratitude. Focus on forgiveness, not blame and retribution. What is written today need not be written tomorrow. All of life is ever-changing and evolving.

Focus on all that you have and will have, leaving the past to be decided and reconciled in the present future. Everything in life is purposeful and happens for a reason. It is up to each of us to discern on a soul level what we truly desired to learn and experience, what is truly on offer.

Do not rob yourself of these precious truths-gifts by remaining on the surface. Dig deeper and discern. Receive and release. Become all you came here to be. There is no shame in the soul’s journey, only opportunities to learn, experience, advance, and transcend.

Rise to the occasion at every turn. Release the past by seeing the hand your every choice played. Rewrite the outcome of the present future.

OWN-ATONE-RELEASE!

In time you will have the opportunity to share all of this with your daughter. Your authentic, truthful, and transparent nature being most cherished, respected, and appreciated by her. Heck, by everyone involved, and that is a worthy battle…resolution.

DearJames®