Photo Credit: muratart/Shutterstock©️
Is This A Test
- LOVE
- DATING/RELATIONSHIPS
- PAST/FUTURE
DearJames,
I am madly, deeply, in love with my boyfriend who is amazing. I want to know if he is my soulmate. I feel like I’ve known him forever. We have so much in common, and he is the first person I can be myself with. I am so comfortable with him, and we have a connection between us like I’ve never felt or had before!
He had to go away for a while, and I can’t see him. We can talk sometimes, but not all the time. He could be gone for a year, two years or even five years! He asked me to marry him, but we can’t until he gets back! I was wondering if you can see how long he’ll be away and why did we get to meet, fall in love, and then he gets taken away! Is this a test?
Anonymous
Dear Is This A Test,
Chance encounters don’t always end up becoming life-long partners or soulmates no matter the chemistry, comfort or intensity involved. In fact, most times it’s exactly the opposite, the love, romance, desire, and attraction fizzle out faster than it formed.
However, in this instance, the cosmos is signaling both parties are in it for the long haul. That said, do not become overly exuberant about this pairing being a “soulmate” situation. True soulmate experiences, in any given lifetime, are extremely rare.
Love and compatibility come in many packages, and yours seems tailor-made for each of you. A perfect fit if-you-will. However, you will each be tested along the way so you can affirm and reaffirm not only your love but also your loyalties and your desires to remain a unified couple.
As the duration of his absence is directly proportionate to his good behavior, you each play a role in maintaining a positive outlook, and thus an earlier reunion. Three to five years is the duration of his physical absence, so do your best to grow and evolve both individually and collectively.
Focus on what you have, not what you don’t have.
Before you know it, he will have returned, and you will have married and many other life events will have come and gone. Remember that each of you will never be the person you were before he left, and nor should you ever want to be.
We all continually change, grow, and evolve, even and especially when we don’t believe or recognize it to be so. Do not attempt to recapture what was, instead, capture and experience what is in each present moment. Look forward not back.
Within the present lies all the beauty of living, experience it consciously, wholly…fully.
Should you doubt or fear, simply alter your thoughts to ones of love, abundance, and gratitude. Each will take you a long way in life. Each builds upon and reinforces the other.
When the time is right, the pieces of the puzzle will fall into place effortlessly, and you will come to see the beautiful tapestry each of you so patiently crafted and constructed together.