Someone Else For Me

Longing for anyone who simply isn’t there only makes the longing louder. The real culprit though isn’t a missing mate, it’s your own happiness and everything that stems from it.

When happiness is absent all of life takes on a silhouetted shade of beige.

Marriage is a tricky matter because rarely is one ever truly honest about their intentions before saying I DO. Inevitably, under all the declarations of love and happily ever after, are hidden layers of unresolved emotional intentions.

Intentions in the form of unspoken truths that always find their way to the surface, over the course of time in a union. Issues of was he/she really the right one and I’ve already invested “x” many years in this relationship, shouldn’t I go ahead and marry him, and will anyone else ever love me, ask me to marry them, etc.

Unspoken truths as to whether you can overlook their faults or whether you are telling yourself you can change them into something they aren’t but choose to try anyway or simply look the other way…until you can’t.

Am I running from something or someone, including myself? Am I masquerading my true feelings?

The list of hidden unresolved intentions is long and one that every person should seriously contemplate. The truth of what’s discovered should be openly and honestly revealed and communicated both with oneself and their partner before they ever agree walk down the aisle and tie the knot.

Fear, in all its many forms, is of course the culprit, the hurdle, that keeps these unspoken truths unspoken, hidden, until it’s too late. In the end, it’s not the person that succeeds or fails but rather the purity of their intentions or lack thereof.

Take a moment to reflect on your intentions, both then and now, before making any final decisions. Own the thoughts, beliefs, and truths/stories you told yourself encased in those intentions and the path of experiences they created.

Commit to charting a course where you are clear about how the purity of your intentions informs your life experiences. A course not bound by the past yet reflective of its many gifts and lessons.

In the end, you will know who is right for you, past, present, or otherwise, because you’ll finally really know YOU. Those initials and name are still yet to be written.