Tearing At My Heartstrings

Starting over isn’t always easy, especially when children and their welfare are involved. Where should they really live?  With whom should they really live?  What’s “best” for them?

The questions are endless and seem to have no easy or simple answer.  They merely go round and round and round in your head; in a never-ending viscous cycle until you are depleted, exhausted, and confused.  And that clearly does not serve anyone well.

Your soul is telling you that you wish to start over, elsewhere, and as difficult as that is, you need to listen to it.  Your happiness depends on it, and a happy parent is a good parent.

Surely there will be those who seek to judge you and label you an unworthy / unfit mother for making such a choice, however, do not cloak yourself in their label of judgment for they merely seek to feel better about themselves by judging you.

Instead hold true to your inner conviction that this move is the correct move for YOU.  God and the Universe only ever want the best for each of us; and you deserve to be just as happy as your ex-husband, children and others.

The beautiful thing about children is they are resilient.  And just because today they say they want to remain where you currently live doesn’t mean they won’t change their minds in the coming days, weeks, months or years to come.

Change is challenging and perhaps their reticence or objection to relocating now is more about rebelling against this separation and divorce and their fear of change in life than it is about an actual relocation to a new place.

While it may be the hardest thing you have yet to ever do or face in your life, sometimes by growing and evolving yourself, you allow others to do the same.  Lead by example; demonstrate to them the worthiness of being happy in life.

Give them time, for time heals all and proffers great wisdom from within.

And remember, you are entitled to your happiness and you needn’t ever apologize for that.  Families evolve, parents evolve, children evolve; we need only be willing and allow it.

By the grace of God and all who seek to hear, see, feel and experience his wisdom, things will turn out just fine.  This is part of your collective journey and experiences as a family and you will all grow and evolve because of it.

Be amicable, loving and respectful in life and ask that for the betterment of your children your ex-husband do the same.

By making that a paramount priority between the two of you, you set the tone for everyone else involved and in that, there are no wrong decisions…only grand opportunities for each of you to live and experience your truest and greatest potentials.