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Met A Great Guy


I met a great guy, only problem is he works where I go to the chiropractor. Should I build a friendship with him or totally forget it?

The two times we hung out, it felt like we had known each other all our lives. He told me today that he could not give me more than just friendship due to stuff going on in his life.


Dear Met A Great Guy,

When people speak, listen, even when it goes against your deeper desires.

In this instance, he is being honest and direct with you, and that is to be both appreciated and respected. Counter to the man who plays all sides to the middle, this gentleman is telling you upfront how it is, and that’s refreshing.

Honesty and forthrightness should never be optional, on the contrary, they are bedrock principals in how we conduct ourselves. If you are capable and willing to initiate solely a friendship with this man, then proceed accordingly. However, and this is a BIG however, if your motives and intentions are to befriend him to see if this becomes more, STOP before you start.

Nothing ever good comes from deceitful, manipulative actions and intentions. Ultimately, people end up experiencing the effects of their ill intentions; the exact opposite of their desire yet spot on because of their ill-conceived intentions.

Follow his lead and take the high road.

In time, you may end up more than friends or as best friends. As the idiom goes, if it’s meant to be, it will be. However, it will be because it came about in an honest and pure manner. In the right way, at the right time, under the right circumstances. And that is a foundation worthy of building any relationship upon.