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I Need Help
- WORK/EMPLOYMENT/CAREER
- DATING/RELATIONSHIPS
- FEAR
DearJames,
Last September I resigned from my position of 23 years to stay at home with our 18-month-old daughter. Since such time I have encountered so many obstacles with my relationship and insecurities. I need help.
Forever Grace
Dear I Need Help,
Swimming in the deep end of life has a way of catching up with you and wearing you out just when you thought it couldn’t get any worse. Instead of flailing about, calm yourself and surrender.
While surrendering may feel like dying, that is exactly what you need. The old you needs to die so the new you may emerge. Your frustrations, insecurities, and relationship foes are all tied up in your holding onto your former identity.
Thus, not relinquishing it and all that you believe it represents has you spiraling out of control. You’re feeling resentful, angry, frustrated, marginalized, defeated, diminished, undervalued, and unappreciated; the list goes on.
And the truth is, it’s of your own making – doing.
The sooner you realize all of this is a product of your ego-mind-personality not wanting to relinquish control over your dominion / being, the sooner you will relax and come to enjoy the new you.
Breaking down one’s identity is a challenging and often painful process when you are not willing to surrender. And by surrender, I mean flow with the journey you and your soul chose, not against it.
You currently believe that by leaving your position of 23-years and becoming a stay-at-home mom, you have somehow marginalized and minimized yourself. Life is passing you by and you have nothing to show for it. However, that couldn’t be further from the truth.
You are expanding, not contracting.
By shedding the limitation of your prior self-imposed identity, you are expanding your being, your entire world, not contracting it. You are not a One Note being, you are limitless, expansive, and eternal.
Begin to see this breaking down, this journey, for exactly what it is, a tremendous life gift. Imagine the person you will be, years from now, when your daughter is older.
Imagine the depth and breadth of life knowledge you will have experienced and accrued. Imagine how much freer you will feel for having simply let go and surrendered all that minimalized and marginalized you as a single note.
Imagine the woman her child loves and looks up to for growing, expanding, evolving…with her. Imagine her indeed, as she lives within you.
This only hurts and is painful because you have yet to allow her emergence.
Once you do, life will bloom again, and you will no longer wish to ever be the person you were before you surrendered.
DearJames®
DearJames,
Thank you for breaking down my question into so many facets of my life. How in the heck did you do that? My husband is amazed at your response and has me reading it to him over and over again. How do you do it? Do you connect somehow? It’s truly amazing.
I am interested in an intuitive consultation.
Warmest regards.