He Is Not the One

Looking for love in all the wrong places can be a very slippery slope.

While online dating certainly has its success stories, there are just as many, if not more, horror stories. When people date online, they often take on false or exaggerated personas, hiding their true identity behind a perceived veil of anonymity, false impression, and secrecy. It’s easier to be someone you’re not online than in “real life.”

The onus is on you to ensure that your desire for a relationship does not supersede your rational awareness to identify unworthy, untrustworthy, and/or illicit/predatory individuals. In other words, DO NOT ABANDON YOUR SENSES!

Absent from the online dating experience is the actual energy / vibe an in-person encounter and exchange afford. There simply is no substitute for in-person chemistry, interaction, and truth. What may look, sound, and feel good online, may turn out to be your worst nightmare in person.

Exercise caution and greater mindfulness so you listen to and don’t ignore your spidey-senses. We have them for a reason…to keep us safe. Weed through any potential suitors by listening to your gut intuition. If something tells you something is off, LISTEN, and DO NOT override yourself because you want to believe otherwise. To quote the incomparable Maya Angelou, “People are always showing you who they are; believe them the first time.”

Meet only in a public place and make certain others know exactly where and with whom you are meeting. You can also opt to have a friend go along to the meeting place with you. All the above will go a long way in ensuring your safety first, while pursuing the opportunity of finding your one true love.

And remember, true “soul mate” relationships are rare and elusive, while relationships between individuals that mirror their “present state of consciousness” abound. What matters most is realizing this fact. Relationships mirror each person’s mental, emotional, and physical energies. Where YOU are in life is what YOU will attract.

So, if you are lonely, insecure, or in need of love and validation, along comes a person mirroring those exact energies. The experience of the relationship will center and reflect the unspoken energies. In this example, loneliness, insecurity, lack of self-value/worth/and love. This is not the experience one wants unless it is.

Healthy, balanced, loving relationships are what we all desire, we just need to be that with and for ourselves, first.

Focus on finding and fulfilling the attributes you desire in another in yourself first. Place your trust and value in you. Then, you’ll be keenly aware of who is a Mr. Wrong and who is a Mr. Right and you won’t hesitate to walk on by until you do.

Oh, how simple yet profound the Divine Mirror of Truth is.  That which we are is that which we seek.