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WHEN THERE'S NO SPARK LEFT, STAY MARRIED OR NOT?

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I am over 50 and have been married for more than 26 years. We have one child — early 20s, independent but still at home.

I have fallen out of love with my husband. I love him but there is NO spark. I have come to this realization within the last couple of years since becoming an (almost) ‘empty nester.’ I was too busy to realize this sooner. I have tried talking to him and we have tried counseling; counseling failed due to poor counselor.

There is no intimacy between us. I know this is something I can’t live without. I have never cheated on him, but I have had some recent temptations. He is (too) agreeable with anything I suggest, but it never accomplishes anything. He ‘listens’ to me and agrees, but everything seems to go in one ear and out the other. He is not abusive or addicted to anything (drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc.).

When marriage intimacy is goneHe can’t possibly be happy with the way things are. I asked him if he was gay and he said no. He has difficulty with physical intimacy due to his being overweight and some medications he takes. He gives little effort to lose weight and get off his meds. I don’t know if I should stay or not. – NO Spark

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