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Down The Right Path

Relationships , Self-Worth , Self-Confidence

DearJames,

I was wondering if you could tell me anything about my relationship. If I will reach all my goals in life. And if I’m going down the right path.

Anonymous

 

Dear Down The Right Path

There appears to be a lot of tension going on in your household both internally and between the two of you.

Operating from a fear-based place, you walk on eggshells a lot, attempting to control your environment and your life, and yet there is an element of co-dependency between you.

It’s time to face the music and make all current and future choices and decisions from a more empowered state of being.

Courage, strength, and fortitude, mixed with equal doses of humility, grace, and compromise, afford you a strong and balanced foundation from which to operate.

Face any relationship issues or deficiencies by first facing yourself.

It takes depth of character to recognize where you may need adjustment and refinement before outwardly looking at others.

And be mindful not to seek in others that which you must find and cultivate within.

You are whole and complete just as you are. You are all that you ever truly need in life. Anything extra is meant to complement you and be in addition to, not in place of.

Whether single or coupled with another, when you love yourself first, and operate from a place of purity, trust, integrity, and honesty, life truly is richer.

Now, it's not to say that the current relationship you are in won't or can't go the distance; it’s just in need of some serious work on both your parts.

Each of you needs to find greater balance by acknowledging the elephant in the room, a fair amount of co-dependency, which leads to irritation, insecurity, confrontation, and a lack of motivation.

By demonstrating self-care and self-reliance, each of you will demonstrate to yourself and the other, your innate internal wisdom, strength, capabilities, and power.

That in turn reduces the pressure each of you feels, and by making these adjustments, everyone achieves a new and improved normal. One where both of you thrive.

As to your life goals, reaching them, and are you going down the right path; seemingly the answer is yes. However, with the caveat that, when you divert yourself by going down the wrong path, and you know when you are doing it (as in you know you know you’re doing it), stop and correct yourself immediately.

Being focused is one thing. Being too tightly wound is an entirely different beast; one that will lead you astray.

And remember, you cannot control every aspect of life, and if you continue trying, you will exhaust both yourself and those around you.

As you forge ahead, trust in the fact that you are perfect and evolving, are never behind but rather right on time, and are guided every step of the way.

Namaste

DearJames

 

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