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Not Even Sure

Future , Happiness , Life Direction / Purpose


I’ve had personal relationship problems all my life. I just ended a 10-year relationship that was difficult and toxic. I’m not even sure I want a partner at this point but I get lonely for companionship. What is your advice?



Dear Not Even Sure

When in doubt, pause, reflect, and then hit the reset button.

Life long personal relationship issues are a reflection of deeper issues at play. And if you aren’t addressing the root issues the cycle continues.

More often than not we humans look externally to fulfill, satisfy, remedy and nourish that which we must address and derive from within.

There simply are no substitutes and our disappointment only intensifies once the patina of any new relationship wears off and we are once again left facing ourselves.

As the saying goes, everywhere you go, there you are.

Perhaps this human need/response to look outside of ourselves for answers, wholeness, and completion lies in the fact that we inadvertently feel separated from our divine origin, our divine spark; our divine selves.

This perceived separation then manifests itself in a myriad of ways, all in an attempt to satisfy ones ultimate needs and desires: to be whole, happy, and complete.

Once we realize this for the illusion that it is we reveal the truth: we are not and have never been alone as we are never separate from God, Source, the All that Is, etc.

Our faith reinforces it, our pessimism challenges it, and our divinity guarantees it.

Thus, loneliness stems from not actively engaging the limitless richness of your soul-to-source connection.

Every life is replete with otherworldly assistance: guides, angels, teachers, master teachers, and more, and yet people rarely acknowledge their presence and existence in our lives let alone willingly engage their wisdom, knowledge, guidance, company and comfort.

Now is the time to awaken to their presence in your life, request their assistance, and listen to and follow their direction.

In other words, date the Universe. Ask them out and continue to do so. Become comfortable in your vessel and accustom to their presence, replies, guidance, company, direction, answers, signs and cautions and warnings.

This will fulfill and change you in a life-altering, epic way, for the more you engage with them, the more calm, centered, connected, inspired and pure you become.

And that is wholeness personified. What greater gift is there to be or share with others?



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