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Relationships | Anonymous | DearJames
Relationships , Self-Worth , Self-Confidence
I was wondering if you could tell me anything about my relationship. If I will reach all my goals in life. And if I’m going down the right path.
Child / Children / Grandchildren | Anonymous | DearJames
Child / Children / Grandchildren , Stress , Decision / Indecision
I am having issues with my daughter. She has three kids, is mad at the world, and I try to help all I can. She doesn't appreciate anything, and it is draining me in every way. I have prayed and am at my wits end with this. Is there any advice or insight you can give me on this matter? I don't even know where to begin or how to even start this process.
Adultery / Betrayal / Cheating | Anonymous | DearJames
Adultery / Betrayal / Cheating , Decision / Indecision , Relationships
My husband of two months was unfaithful to me and now he and the woman he cheated on me with are harassing me. I have health issues and I can’t afford to get upset. How do I handle these two? Please help me. I’m desperate for help before I do something stupid.
Friendship | Anonymous | DearJames
Friendship , Family , Life
Why is it when I need help, people who I’ve helped in the past, get selective amnesia and forget that I was there for them? Why do I continually let myself be used by people? Please help me.
Life | Anonymous | DearJames
Life , Love , Trust
I just want to know if you have any messages for me.
Addiction | Anonymous | DearJames
Addiction , Drugs – Alcohol (Use / Abuse) , Life Direction / Purpose
My fiancé recently got out on parole; however, he is not the same. He went back to his old way of life of doing drugs, except for the meth. Do you see him ever settling down and going straight? It has never been my lifestyle at all.
Anxiety / Nervousness | Anonymous | DearJames
Anxiety / Nervousness , Relocation / Move , Fear
My husband received a promotion at work, and we are about to move across the country. I am excited about this new adventure but also scared and anxious at the same time. We have always had family around us that we could fall back on if we needed the support and I have never lived without my family close by. In one way I am actually excited to get away from all of the drama, yet I am also scared of being alone. I am extremely shy and don't make friends easily. I have social anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder, and panic attacks. I am being treated, but haven't quite found the right combination of meds to control my anxiety. Do you have any advice or insight that could help me?
Love | Anonymous | DearJames
Love , Relationships , Life Direction / Purpose
I am currently single but completely in love with my six-month old daughter’s father. I spend a lot of time with him and my daughter. However, I can't take much more, as he does not care for me like I care for him. I feel so crushed inside and do not know what to do.
Family | Anonymous | DearJames
Family , Siblings (Brother / Sister / Half / Step) , Optimism
I was adopted at the age of two. I have searched very hard for over five years for my last biological sibling and it would mean a lot to me to find her. I have spent countless hours on the Internet searching white pages, people searches, Facebook (oddly enough how I found all of my other siblings), and I do not have the funds for a private investigator. All I have is her fathers name, approximate date of birth, and the county(s) she was permanently taken from by Child Protective Services. I feel like if I found her, it would be the last remaining piece of the puzzle. I have pictures of her and our birth mother when she was very young. My question is, what resources are available that may help me find her? I feel like I have run out of options that don’t require a ridiculous amount of money that I do not have. I have cried over it and I have been angry over it. I just want closure. I am near hopeless, but I will never give up.
Love | Anonymous | DearJames
Love , Relationships , Life
I try so hard to find love, but it never fails, I always end up getting hurt!!! My last one was a bad drug addict, so I let him go. Do I have to be alone forever?
Health | Anonymous | DearJames
Health , Harmful Thoughts / Behaviors , Life
Why did I choose for this lifetime to be a struggle with mental illness? And how can I make sure it doesn't happen again?
Marriage | Anonymous | DearJames
Marriage , Life , Relationships
I have been single for forty-nine years, waiting to marry only once in my life. What are my chances now? And where is he?
Significant Other (Boyfriend / Girlfriend / Partner) | Michelle | DearJames
Significant Other (Boyfriend / Girlfriend / Partner) , Commitment , Marriage
I met a nice guy a few months ago and have been dating him since. But after my previous marriage failing and my last relationship proving to be a false true love, is this going to be the real deal or just a nice long dating commitment?
Money | Kat | DearJames
Money , Debt , Relocation / Move
We have had a piece of land for sale for over eight years. Selling this property will enable us to become completely debt free. It is a desirable piece of property, the market is coming up, and we feel we have a good real estate agent. Why hasn't this land sold? What is blocking the energy from moving forward into a sale? Is there anything that can be done to move the energy along? Is there something else going on in the "big picture" that is unseen that would help us understand this long delay? Thank you for any solutions you can provide in order to move this project forward to a successful outcome.
Dating | acklore | DearJames
Dating , Relationships , Future
Why have I been alone for so long? Will I meet someone?
Awareness | Theodore | DearJames
Awareness , Life Direction / Purpose , Faith
I feel that my whole life I’ve been underachieving, missing the mark, and coming up short of my potential. Success eludes me. I have trouble following through, earning a living (though I’ve improved), and completing projects. I’m always tired and often distracted. I’m happy but I feel like the energy to plan and execute ideas confuses and exhausts me. Though I have made great strides in my life, I wish I could harness my creativity and intelligence to express myself. Though I love daydreaming and resting, I want to feel more alive. Is it diet, ADD, a repressed thought, a mental block? Help me find a breakthrough. I want to evolve. I want to create. I want to know God.
Relationships | Lilkat  | DearJames
Relationships , Future , Insight
In 2017 I lost two family members in a very short time, and then hit rock bottom of a relationship that I couldn’t seem to quit until it about ruined my life. So last year I spent too much and ate too much and I suppose just let myself be depressed. This year I would really like to live and get out of the sadness. I guess I’m just really needing some insight and reassurance that things can be as I dream and hope them to be. I’m sorry, I know this isn’t really even a direct question, I guess I just need someone to tell me it’s going to be ok. Thanks for your time.
Dating | Anonymous | DearJames
Dating , Life , Trust
There is someone who keeps coming to my store and wanting me to go out with him. Should I be worried? Should I leave it alone?
Child / Children / Grandchildren | Mila | DearJames
Child / Children / Grandchildren , Dating , Career / Work / Job
Will my daughter stop drinking? Is it possible for me to find a soul mate? And how can I improve my work and relationship with my boss?
Family | Anonymous | DearJames
Family , Forgiveness , Anger / Rage
Is it normal to love your mother but dislike her at the same time? Is it normal to still be grieving for the loss of my father, both brothers and my grandparents and yet still hold anger towards my mother who was so hateful towards my father when he was ill with pancreatic cancer? She was so hateful towards my youngest brother, even speaking badly over his dead body to the nurse? Why is she so angry? I don't think she understands that her prescription medication addiction has taken control of her life and I am angry. Help me understand her for I feel she hates me. Is it just the pill addiction or does she also have traits of schizophrenia much like her uncle and father? I need to understand. I'm 55 and I still feel like my mother doesn't love me. How much longer does my mother have on this earth? She is miserable and unhappy. She never leaves her house and speaks about loved ones who have passed on like they are still in the present. What have I done? How do I forgive and accept a woman who is so negative and angry all the time? Perhaps if I could understand her mental state I could better understand her. My entire life I have tried to understand her and I have been physically and emotionally abused by her. Can I let this hurt go? I want to.
Love | Anonymous | DearJames
Love , Future , Child / Children / Grandchildren
Will I be set for life? Will I live near my grandchildren? Will I get well? I have chronic pain/anxiety/panic attacks. Will I be with my husband? My husband is a shaman; is there room for me in his life?
Career / Work / Job | Lola | DearJames
Career / Work / Job , Child / Children / Grandchildren , Happiness
I am writing to you in regards to feeling completely lost and afraid my thoughts and feelings will be detrimental to my current relationship with a nice man. I was married for 25 years and my ex pretty much rejected me in every way of our relationship, so I gave him what he wanted and divorced him. During this time my son had been in and out of prison and jail due to crime and drugs and that took a toll on the whole family, leaving me childless in a sense where I cannot see or talk to my grandkids. My daughter wants nothing to do with me and I am hurt. Being the rock of the family I feel like I failed my family. My son's ex wife refuses to allow me to keep my relationship with my granddaughter since I moved to Texas after living in that hell in Minnesota. I'm scared, feel alone, and was told lies in order to move here. My family here is very distant and uses me for their benefit and that is it. I have been trying to find a good job, but nothing. I met a man who says he loves me, but I get scared and worry that he isn't being for real and I am not sure what to think. I need some insight on what you see for my life, career and healing in my family and myself? Please help me.
Break-Up | jules | DearJames
Break-Up , Dating , Marriage
A few years ago my daughter went through a terrible out of the blue break-up. I saw all the heartache she was going through. This was a relationship that started in high school and ended when she was 23 years old with no warning. She started dating in the fall of 2017. She is with a new guy and as a parent I want to see her happy. Will this one be the one?
Future | Lgs324 | DearJames
Future , Happiness , Life Direction / Purpose
I’ve had personal relationship problems all my life. I just ended a 10-year relationship that was difficult and toxic. I’m not even sure I want a partner at this point but I get lonely for companionship. What is your advice?
Life Direction / Purpose | Ms | DearJames
Life Direction / Purpose , Relationships , Awareness
Should I stay with my current partner or is he the hindrance to my elevation?
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